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PermaThrowaway111 t1_iyfdp0j wrote

Tell her that all of her reasons to keep your relationship a secret are for the consideration of others when YOU are the one in this relationship. She's considering the feelings of everyone else over yours, when after a year and a half I think its safe to say you should be a priority.

I would also ask her how long does she see this "secret" lasting? It's just not feasible.

If this were a fling, sure I could understand some secrecy. But if you have a full fledged relationship for this amount of time and assuming it's going strong then there should be no issues of trying to hide it any longer.

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friednuts OP t1_iyfefbq wrote

Regarding how long the secret can last- I have asked her that too, and she said that's a future problem, not right now, because "we're comfortable where we are now".

I have said something along those lines about the consideration of others versus me. She simply retorts with saying the same thing back- why should I care about other people knowing when the relationship is just me and her. She does treat me like her boyfriend when we're not around friends.

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