You’re both awful people just stay together tho because you’ll only hurt someone else more if you ever get in a relationship again

You guys are both toxic. He obviously wasn’t ready for a relationship and you after what he did started to explore other options. Be single or be fwb you guys will never fully trust each other cause you guys don’t want be alone but also aren’t trying to only be with each other.

Quick question first, why did you download Tinder to begin with?

You’re in therapy. Together? What does the therapist say?

That whole tit for tat thing just doesn’t work in relationships. You’ve been together for a year and you’ve each cheated. What will keep each of you from doing that again the next time you’re feeling hurt, lonely, betrayed.

My advice for longevity……always turn toward each other. Even when it sucks to do so. Always turn toward each other.

This is a common problem faced by young couples. So you are not toxic. You just wanted to get payback. You have both cheated. Now that there is sufficient payback are both of you willing to work on it?

Trust, loyalty and fidelity are important if you want to move forward. I myself when I was your age went into nuclear revenge mode. It was a drawn out relationship that should have ended way sooner!

It is not about you earning his trust but both of you earning the trust.

What can you do?

Aw I think it’s cute that you both suck, it’s like a match made in hell.

Seriously tho, you keep bringing up what he did to you and trying to justify your actions because he did it first. But you completely lose the right to revenge and anger over it when you chose to continue your relationship. He did wrong, and you could’ve left, but you didn’t. You can’t move on from his actions or put the past behind you but you can use it to justify you getting even with him??? Yikes.

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Why do you both want to work this out is my first question? You now both have trust issues. So why is this worth it to both of you? If you both really loved each other you wouldn't have felt need to go outside of the relationship for validation or you wouldn't have felt a need to get revenge on him.

It isn't just you being very honest with him it is him being honest with you. Generally I would view what you have as a toxic relationship and it is only 1 year long.

You’re both toxic. Just breakup. You’re clearly not going to get over the resentment and trying to get back at him just makes everything worse.