Love girlfriend but got accepted to school in my dream state

Submitted by beyondthemall t3_z96u0d in relationship_advice

Hey everyone, I’m so conflicted and don’t know what to do. Thought I’d come here and ask. I let my girlfriend 4 months ago and she’s been everything I could have asked for in a partner, I also applied(and got accepted) to a college in Seattle that I’ve been trying for since I was in my senior year of Highschool, I love her but I’m so confused on what to do, we live in New Mexico so it would be a bit of a stretch to have her visit me out there. What would you guys do?

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Andle_Randle t1_iyfaats wrote

Go. College is far more concrete than a relationship. She might seem perfect right now, but you have no idea if you'll work out long-term. There is also the possibility that you'll come to resent choosing her over your dream school. Choosing a relationship over something as important as college is not a smart choice.

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WeaselWeaz t1_iyfcfjd wrote

You go to your dream school. If the relationship lasts, great. If it doesn't, you didn't waste an opportunity for someone you're are barely in a relationship with. You should respect her enough to let her make the same choice.

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KrKrKr004 t1_iyfdx4x wrote

I'd say my goodbyes to a four month old relationship and know that chances are that only four months in, your relationship is still in the 'shiny and new' phase and won't last forever, while your dream will bring you places, to people, and learning that in the grand scheme of things, will be a better 'payout'.

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