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acnhlouise t1_iybom0c wrote

Hi, I'm a woman and hang out with my guy friends 1 on 1. I understand your concerns, especially because your trust has been broken in the past. But if this girl hasn't broken your trust in anyway, then there's no reason to not trust her. The fact that she told you is a good sign.

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lil-peanutbutter t1_iybombx wrote

First. You don’t hint you want to be exclusive. You tell/ask directly. Hinting is just idiotic and people always miss hints or think it’s something else. So if you want to ask her to actually be your gf, ask. Worst she says is no.

Second. Of course they can. Women and men have been friends since forever. You thinking that more is happening is because of your past and not because of her. You are creating an issue because of being hurt. It isn’t a red flag she has guy friends. Plus she told you and didn’t hide the encounter. She is showing you that she can be trusted. But if you can’t trust her, don’t ask her to be exclusive with you or even be with her. She doesn’t need to be judged or second guessed or controlled for having friends of the opposite sex.

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quinny23 t1_iybqpf6 wrote

Guy Here. Happens all the time. You only need to stress if she's missing big blocks of time. Otherwise chill. She is either with you or with someone else. While she is with you dont F it up by thinking its the later.

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ace_of_skates t1_iyc0e0b wrote

This in itself is not a red flag. Do you think bisexual people in relationships should just not have friends? Guy friends can be just that, a friend

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timeactor t1_iycbyce wrote

I had to send a female friend of mine home the other day, because she thought she could fall sleep on my couch, then stay overnight. I would have had no problem with that - at all - but I didn't want to discuss that with my girlfriend.

It felt bad at the time, but 1-on-1-hangout was already stressing it enough ...

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Katseye1975 t1_iyceb4r wrote

As a chix that grew up as one of the guys well most of my friends are guys, I don't really get the female perspective on most things. So if a hang out 1 on 1 with a friend it's 98% of the time gonna be a guy. Not everyone is out to have sex with everyone.

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