triaxisman t1_iydkqvb wrote on November 30, 2022 at 4:42 PM

Reply to comment by Moneybagk in My boyfriend doesn’t know boundaries- should I leave? by Moneybagk

One reason it happens is if he’s a really bad people pleasers and fears being disliked. So he’ll try to make everyone like them, and if he can’t he’ll prioritize the people he doesn’t know as he doesn’t know if they’ll forgive him but he does know the people he’s close to will. Basically he takes advantage of the people close to him, in order to make sure everyone likes him, but in the end, he’ll lose close friends as that gets old fast. If that’s his issue, it can take years of therapy to figure it out, find solutions and develop better behaviors, if it’s possible to fix at all. So the sooner you jump ship, the better.

Moneybagk OP t1_iydlkgh wrote on November 30, 2022 at 4:47 PM

Well 2 years of this and this isn’t the first time I’ve seen him act like this in front of me with other women. So I can’t imagine what he does when he’s just with his friends at the bar. He always brings me with but then does that and idk why. I’ve brought it up to him many times. He bought me flowers 2x to try to make up for cheating on me but doesn’t act differently. And hasn’t changed since to try to work on it. He’s manipulative in the way that he does things that make me happy but then manipulated me when he does bad things. It’s a very hard situation for me to be in right now.