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[deleted] OP t1_j2d2f5h wrote

Reply to comment by opinionsarelikeahs in [26-M][21-F] BF deleting phone history by [deleted]

I would 100% agree with you if we hadn't established beforehand that its okay to go through each other's phones. He has gone through mine exactly like I've gone through his.

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opinionsarelikeahs t1_j2d2ogm wrote

But he isn't ok with it clearly , and why do you need to go through each others phones ? You don't trust him . He is so uncomfortable with your behaviour that he needs to delete things because you are being controlling and going through his phone and it's clearly not an occasional thing

It's not healthy , and it's not going to fly in future relationships . If you want to be happy you need to start with why you feel this obsessive need to be in someone's private life , because I promise you future partners will see a massive red flag waving

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[deleted] OP t1_j2d3971 wrote

I agree with you. It wasn't like this in the beginning. I had never gone through his phone before recently. But that's opened my eyes to new ideas about him feeling like he needs to hide things. I don't want to make him feel that way, and will for sure talk to him and ask about the way he feels about going through phones. That's why I ask for advice because I hear different viewpoints I haven't thought of before, thank you. I wish he could've communicated it to me but I can see why it could be difficult for him to express. Thanks again.

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opinionsarelikeahs t1_j2da6ms wrote

Best of luck - and before worrying about him , take some time to ask why you are feeling like that. There will be deeper reasons

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