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ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2dvte0 wrote

Reply to comment by BeaArt78 in (31F) (21M) Mutual Attraction? Dealing with a Major Crush On My Guy Friend by ldsgirl2022

They are. There is no reason to cut him of because I like him and he likes me. Our mutual friends tried to set me up with two guys that are around his age, and were confused as to why I wouldn't want to date them. Defining someone by their age is wrong, especially when I got to know the person.

Why are you saying he is aggressively flirting ?

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BeaArt78 t1_j2dwah1 wrote

You literally said he wont leave you alone. Either you like it and want to date him or you dont. Pick one.

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ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2dwrqt wrote

I like him but not his age. If he was my age it would be different. Yes he won't leave me alone but you put all the blame on me. You don't address his behavior. You don't think it is gross he is behaving that way towards someone older than him ?

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BeaArt78 t1_j2dzjc8 wrote

Youre going around in circles. Either you want to date him or you dont. Hes practically a child. What he is doing doesn't matter if you think it's gross or not, your actions do. Lots of kids have crushes on older people. He isnt stopping because you are feeding into it.

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ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2e1ttv wrote

He is far from a child. He towers over me and is mature beyond his years. He has been very positive in my life. Now you're saying a fully grown man cannot be held accountable for his behavior ? He is not a kid and does not live like one. I am not sure why he is not stopping but I am not feeding into it. I pushed him away in the past and he got us through that. He loves that we are exactly ten years in age difference, and is not afraid of it. I want to spend more time with him because he is a great person. I have reservations about dating him. You make it seem like he is not allowed to be my friend or that he is out of control, yet you place no accountability in his behavior. He is the one acting this way, to make me feel more comfortable with him. Yet you don't ask why, and instead blame me for not shutting people who care about me out of my life for something he cannot control.

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BeaArt78 t1_j2e3kyf wrote

Are you really equating height with maturity? Maybe youre perfect for him then lol

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ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2e4f3w wrote

No. I am saying he is and adult, not a child. He is not immature and doesn't look like a child either.

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BeaArt78 t1_j2e3nz7 wrote

YOU are placing no accountability on his behavior. You have options. You are choosing not to use them.

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ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2e4mk2 wrote

I did, but not anymore because he is now in my life. My options are less because I chose to engage with him. We enjoy spending time together and getting to know each other. What he cannot control is who he loves, so I accept his love.

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