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Consistent_Patient88 t1_j2e8ue1 wrote

Reply to comment by ldsgirl2022 in (31F) (21M) Mutual Attraction? Dealing with a Major Crush On My Guy Friend by ldsgirl2022

You’re entertaining the thought of having a relationship with a 21 year old virgin (your words). Why are you not putting a stop to it.

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ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2e9js6 wrote

I am and I did. I cannot control if he wants a relationship, and that he already started building one. He is sweet to me because he cannot help it, and I tried to ignore it but guys like that are rare at any age. He is very caring and loving. If he was looking for sex it would be different. He isn't rushing. He made it clear he wants to be in my life for a long time.

I don't see why your jumping to the conclusion that things will automatically become sexual. Why is he not allowed to be in my life ?

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Consistent_Patient88 t1_j2e9vnr wrote

So why are you even posting it on here then? You’re clearly not looking for advice. You’re looking for validation that the age gap is acceptable. So just ask outright or don’t post and you whatever you’re going to do.

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ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2ea1yt wrote

No. I am asking if it is wise to continue being friends with him. I am not interested in being his girlfriend. I do enjoy being with him and the way he makes me feel. Why does that make you think boyfriend and girlfriend ?

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Consistent_Patient88 t1_j2eau5d wrote

I want to kiss him and hold his hand. Your words not mine.

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ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2eb62u wrote

He makes me feel nice. We haven't kissed anywhere other than on the cheeks and we like hugging. Hand holding would be normal since we like touching each other. I am not going to act on it.

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Consistent_Patient88 t1_j2ebl9p wrote

You’re already acting on it. I’m seriously beginning to wonder if this is a joke post, either that or you’re insane.

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ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2ec8mx wrote

It seems like you want to troll instead of offer advice. That seems insane, since you want to write off love for some reason. I said I am torn because I feel like the whole thing is taboo because of one factor. Either way we are both very happy together. I am asking advice about remaining friends with him. How did act in it? We never kissed on the mouth and I don't remember holding his hand.

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Consistent_Patient88 t1_j2ecs08 wrote

You’re completely contradicting everything you say. First, you want to stay friends with him, then you’re talking about love etc and saying you’re very happy TOGETHER and now asking advice on how to remain friends with him. I don’t think you know whether you’re coming or going 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

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ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2eddyn wrote

No I don't, you are confusing what I said. He is the one telling me he loves me dearly. Yes we have to be together to spend time with each other, I didn't say together as a couple. I am now asking if I should remain friends with him since most replies here are saying we shouldn't. I don't see it being a problem being friends. He doesn't either, but he likes dropping hints.

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Consistent_Patient88 t1_j2edkou wrote

I’m not confusing what I’ve read.

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ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2ee8lr wrote

What are you saying ? That I should ghost him because he is younger ? That is messed up. Look I do not like that he is younger but he is sweet and I will spend more time with him before considering dating him.

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Consistent_Patient88 t1_j2eeo3r wrote

At what point did I say ghost him? You’re delusional. I said you’re at different stages of your life, so a relationship probably wouldn’t work as he’s so young.

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ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2ef5ru wrote

You are delusional to think that he is mindless and stupid. He is intelligent and mature, or else he would never be in my life. I realize that we are at different stages and this is why I asked my questions, but you seem ready to troll rather than give advice. A relationship might develop because of the experiences we already share. He wants something to work and I am wondering if it is smart to shut down love when I like him too.

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Consistent_Patient88 t1_j2efi4w wrote

😂😂😂😂😂 I can’t even reply to this nonsense anymore. See ya around mrs Robinson.

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ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2efwax wrote

You came here to troll and because I didn't engage you're upset? To each their own. You clearly never had someone younger enter your life, so let's pray that never happens because that young person would be discredited just for being younger.

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Consistent_Patient88 t1_j2efzzm wrote

😂😂😂😂 seek therapy and step away from Reddit.

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ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2eghjn wrote

You foam at the mouth and troll too much. You need a lot of professional mental health help and you need to stop trolling my thread. You're insane if you think people can choose who they love. To each their own.

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Consistent_Patient88 t1_j2egr3e wrote

My mental health is just fine thanks very much. If you read your original post and all the comments you’ve replied, you will see that you’ve constantly contradicted yourself. Have a good life.

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ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2ehed2 wrote

Contradict no, but I make it clear that I think it's taboo. You want to misunderstand, sure but do it elsewhere. You don't want to give advice, you dont even want him to see me or speak to me. Yes I will have a good life and he will be in it too, so troll elsewhere because this is a serious post.

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