[22F] [22M] Do I have the right to get mad at my bf for always being late?

Submitted by Ill_Craft3509 t3_zzq452 in relationship_advice

I love my bf with all my heart but I cant stand that hes always late. It ranges from 40 minutes to two hours (I'd say an average of an hour). To be fair, he has ADHD and has medication for that but Im not sure if ADHD causes lateness? His main problem is that he oversleeps, even when he sleeps early he will almost everytime wake up late. I've been extremely mad at him for being late sometimes, but he clearly feels very guilty and sad and I feel like I'm making our relationship stressful for him by always nagging him about not being on time especially since hes not doing it on purpose. I want him to feel at ease in our relationship and not stressed because of my nagging but at the same time this always being late thing is driving me crazy.

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UKNZ007Tubbs t1_j2df0io wrote

Yes.

And as it’s affecting you so much, it is also a reason to leave him.

And unless he’s meeting you first thing in the morning, his oversleeping is a rubbish excuse.

He’s lazy. If he actually wanted to be on time he could put alarms/reminders on his phone.

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Ill_Craft3509 OP t1_j2dffbu wrote

we usually plan to meet at 4pm. He wakes up by 2 and then shows up at 5:30pm. Sadly alarms dont seem to work for him, I even try calling him but it doesnt work :(

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SerenityM3oW t1_j2dvkbs wrote

Does he work? How does he get up for that?

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Ill_Craft3509 OP t1_j2dw0fx wrote

we are in university rn. He does wake up for uni although has gotten late numerous times. Im more talking about the weekend when we want to hang out or during our summer or winter break

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