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icebluefrost t1_j2dve1r wrote

I mean, it doesn’t really sound like he’s actively trying to conceive.

If you’re comfortable with it, maybe you can shift to a “we occasionally have sex without birth control and if it happens it happens” mentality.

But, if that’s not ok for you and you’ve decided that kids are just not in the picture, that’s perfectly ok, but you need to have a discussion about it (and I would bring up the frustrations you have with his lack of trying, but so it in as calm and unemotional a way as possible)

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SunBubble920 t1_j2dwaht wrote

In his defence, it was the first time he didn’t want to try. But I feel like we need to jump on any opportunity regardless if either of us were tired or full from a large meal (his reasons). Especially considering per our last conversation, this was to be the last month we were going to try.

It’s not that I don’t want to try anymore or have that if it happens it happens mentality, it’s I grow more and more concerned the older I get. I’m getting too close to 40 for my comfort. 🫤

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[deleted] OP t1_j2dw2qe wrote

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SunBubble920 t1_j2dwolt wrote

The last year and a half? Yes. The past month, no.

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[deleted] OP t1_j2dx8rl wrote

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SunBubble920 t1_j2dxtln wrote

As I’m getting closer to 40 I don’t want to push the risks that come along with having a child at an older age. 🫤

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RageAgainstYoda t1_j2e0o7a wrote

Our biological clock is not an alarm clock. I'm 45 and have been in perimenopause for around 8 years now, probably (never had my hormones checked bc I've always been child free and don't have any troubling or concerning symptoms and get regular paps) But my cycle has changed.

You don't know your CURRENT fertility. Some women don't hit menopause until their late 50s. For some it happens at 35. There isn't "business hours" for our eggs or ovaries.

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UsuallyWrite2 t1_j2dy88s wrote

What does he say when you tell him what you said here? That you’re frustrated that he says he wants to try but when the time comes, he’s doesn’t want to?

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