Submitted by ThrowRAmelons22 t3_zzwu09 in relationship_advice
Hi, I tried to make another post but it got no attention. It has more detail but I’m gonna try to keep it short here now. We’ve been together for around 8 months. He does this thing where he makes assumptions and convinces himself that they’re true. For example, I posted a video on my priv Snapchat (has 9ppl including him) but I deleted it before ANYONE saw it. He messages me and asked why I took it down, I told him because I wanted to. He made up a scenario that I really posted for one person to see and once they watched it I deleted the post. But the truth is, I wanted to show my baby bump but I realized I didn’t like the way my face looked so I took it down. I told him but He didn’t believe that and told me I’m trying to gaslight him. One more example, we had a really good day together but the next day he was acting weird. I asked him what’s wrong and he said nothing but then I saw that he made Snapchat posts about my Facebook friends saying “you probably talk to guys and entertain them.” So I denied that as well because it isn’t true lol I use Facebook to talk with family but that’s about it. He got upset and told me “of course I’m always wrong”. But I’m sure he still didn’t believe me but idc anymore. He calls me things like selfish,narcissistic, heartless, etc. I saw a video that said narcs will say “it’s always something with you” or “ why do you always start things” and I do say things like that but I don’t think I’m a narcissist. So my question is have you guys met anyone like that? What do you do when someone has convinced themselves that what they THINK is true? Is there a name for that? Edit: we aren’t together. I just had to state that atthe beginning otherwise they would’ve removed my post. I’m trying to just establish a healthy platonic relationship with him so that we can be good co-parents. He still wants involvement with his baby and that’s fine with me.
JanetInSpain t1_j2e1v0l wrote
OMG you are only 21 AND you're dating a gaslighting narcissist and you thought a baby was a good idea? I'm sorry but you are in a serious mess here.