Submitted by Worldexplorer_ t3_1002qee in relationship_advice
My husband and I have been together for 7 years, 4 married. We were long distance for a bit and I always sent him a present, but he never sent me one. That passed, we started living together a few years ago and honestly the whole relationship is great. He’s sweet, we share house chores, we both work & everything is basically perfect.
I plan our anniversary getaways every year. I plan our birthdays. He helps out on the day of. We never go out on a date unless I plan it. Sex is basically the same thing everytime unless I switch it up. Why? He tells me he’ll work harder every year but it’s the same story every time. He does it the one time then never again untill I get upset. I just want to feel special and keep the spark alive? Why is it so hard for him? I know he loves me, but this stuff is important to the relationship and to me.
What should I do? Should I just settle and accept it and move on? I’m distraught.
gcitt t1_j2f4zl4 wrote
Because you put up with it for 7 years and married him anyway. Why would he change? He already has what he wants. Unfortunately, what he wants isn't to make you happy.