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Worldexplorer_ OP t1_j2f5d70 wrote

Reply to comment by MossValley in [33M] [26F] why doesn’t my husband *show* me he loves me through gestures? by Worldexplorer_

It’s very important to me. And I think that’s it. That he isn’t a planner. But that’s what’s confusing to me… how do I care less about those things? They’re SUPER important to me. Especially in the beginning of a relationship & I never got it.

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MossValley t1_j2f8xdq wrote

Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. It sounds like planning is a strength for you. That's great! What are his strengths? Do they make up for his weaknesses?

I really enjoy planning and getting to pick out what my partner and I do. My current bf will plan too but I actually prefer to do the planning. I've been in relationships where guys would make extravagant plans... it was nice but I found if a guy did that early on they were often just trying to impress and their true shitty natures came out later on. Love bombing is actually a really common thing... The extravagant planners in my past turned out to be liers, cheaters and abusers...

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Worldexplorer_ OP t1_j2fuoou wrote

I don’t even need anything extravagant. I’d be ok with a handwritten note or a homecooked meal or even takeout. As long as it’s special. And ive told him that. He just says he doesnt know how.

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