27F 35M dating and scared to tell my mom.

Submitted by SG_51 t3_1003dw9 in relationship_advice

I live at home with my parents and I’m a 27 year old female. I’ve been seeing this guy 35M for almost 9 months now and I’m scared to tell my mom. My mom makes faces and gives me this tone of voice even when I say I’m going to I hang out with my friends so I’ve just been doing any little thing I can to spend time with my boyfriend and i just like it’s crazy being almost 30 and feeling scared to have a boyfriend. My mom is very traditional in the sense that I can’t even move out on my own because I’m not married and she thinks I’m not capable of living on my own even though I did it for 4 years in college. I feel like I’ve missed out on so many fun opportunities like taking trips with my friends and just hanging out with people because my mom wants me to be at home all the time. I hate that I hide this from her but I just don’t know how to bring it up or what to do.

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Witch_on_a_moped t1_j2f8tm3 wrote

Your mom sounds insane. You haven't needed her permission to move out for like 9 years. Just leave before you waste more of your life.

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SheBeeMe t1_j2f9098 wrote

You're an adult. You do not need your parent's permission to date or move out. It's time to take ownership of your life and start living it.

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wirylime t1_j2fayuw wrote

Without sounding too insensitive to your family's cultural or religious beliefs, this is not the way the rest of the western world lives. Get out now before you waste your life.

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