[22M][22F] my gf refuses to meet my friends

Submitted by Far_Instance5175 t3_zzx41o in relationship_advice

My gf refuses to meet any of my friends

My gf and I (both 22) have been dating for a year now and she still hasn’t met any of my friends which is very important to me cause they are basically family to me. This isn’t for lack of trying either there have been about a half dozen occasions where she has said she’ll come and canceled last second, and one occasion where she made it to the bars with us but before meeting them said she needs to puke and got a ride home and didn’t show any interest in meeting them while waiting. She also made it to a party once at my house but as soon as she got there she said she had a headache and slept in my room before meeting a single person. This is especially hard cause I have 3 roommates so she hasn’t even came to my house more than that one time despite me living there for 6 months now. I invite her every time we have a party or get together and she says more than 3 people in a room is too much for her but will go hangout with 5-10 of her friends all of whom whom I’ve met. Now it’s New Year’s Eve and my gf and I had some plans together but my best friend who I haven’t seen in a year are coming over and my gf is telling me to go to that instead of hanging out with her I just don’t understand why it has to be one or the other and she can’t even come over for a couple hours. She lives less than a mile away so theoretically we could even walk back to her house but even just coming over is a no from her. I’m I trying to hard for trying to push this? Is this a major red flag?

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Moist_Veterinarian69 t1_j2e2mbs wrote

Sounds like she probably has a lot of anxiety about meeting your friends. Talk to her about it, be direct and ask what’s up/

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Far_Instance5175 OP t1_j2e3bux wrote

I guess I just didn’t add that in the post but we do talk about it, and occasionally argue about it, but I have never been able to get a straightforward response on the situation no matter how straightforward I approach it.

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Moist_Veterinarian69 t1_j2e3kgi wrote

That’s the biggest red flag of all honesty, I put open communication at the top of my list of things I need in a relationship so someone just refusing to talk about an issue that affects us both is a no go to me personally

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