You stop joking around, you stop being friendly, you stop going places together even if it's just for an after work drink.

You keep it 100% professional. Civil, but distant. And don't shit where you eat anymore.

She might have not even officially ended the relationship. She just said that so you’d hookup with her. She thought the grass was greener, but it turns out it wasn’t and regretted it.

Are you in a higher position than her?
Because I can see Hr on this

An argument could be made that she emotional cheated on her boyfriend (really dude? You were talking about the things you wanted to do to each other. Who the fuck does that as regular banter with a coworker? C'mon. You wanted her so bad that you didn't care she had a boyfriend because she told you she had 'emotionally checked out' and was in it for 'the lease'. Are you trying to convince reddit of that or yourself?). Be better than that. Don't entangle yourself with people who are already in relationships. Couples break up and figure out shared leases all of the time. If she's even to be believed...

Distance yourself from her. Cut the 'friendly banter'. Be better. Next time you have a crush on someone in a relationship, make the choice to cut that shit off.

Quite a big coincidence that she asked you about the sexual tension between you, conveniently broke up, fucked you, then had to get back home...

I fail to understand what's so great about this woman in the first place. She was having an emotional affair with you. Have you ever heard that saying, "If they'll cheat with you, they'll cheat on you."?

Move on. Keep it civil at work. But move the fuck on. Find someone to date who doesn't think it's ok to have an inappropriate relationship with a workmate while they have a partner sitting at home.

ETA: Dating coworkers in almost never a good idea.

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