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AffectionateWheel386 t1_j2ctd5c wrote

OK, you can crate a puppy if you want to go out and it’s not potty trained yet. Also, if you work with a dog, you can train it so that you can leave the house and the dog can stay behind. There isn’t any reason why you can’t leave the house because you have a dog. I’ve had dogs in full-time jobs. I think you’re a little codependent I don’t think you’re an asshole. And meaning you’re over thoughtful and you’re not taking care of yourself. Again train your dog the dog can stay at home while you go out for a couple three hours.

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Successful-Storage80 OP t1_j2cxso1 wrote

A lot of what you’re saying I do resonate with and appreciate, I do struggle with codependency and it’s one of the reasons I advocated for myself to have girls night out. It’s still difficult to see it as self-care, even with the work I’ve done on myself separate from our relationship. Like, my guilt is split between needing time for myself and needing more quality time together since he’s gone for work for long periods of time. As far as the dog goes, we are training him, but he’s still less than 3 months old. So he can’t be left alone for more than 2 hours in the crate.

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AffectionateWheel386 t1_j2cy3jm wrote

I’m in recovery from alcohol for two decades, and I came in very codependent and I still have codependency. It’s a journey not a destination. Good luck to you. I guess I didn’t realize the baby dog was so small. I love dogs and I promise you in three years. That dog will be a champion and do everything the way you want it to but you’re right. A puppy that small is very needy.

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