[25F] [28M] I flirted with other people after my boyfriend broke up with me to pursue someone else

Submitted by SnooHamsters513 t3_zzz8im in relationship_advice

My ex decided to put an end to our relationship after confessing he had feelings for another girl. We have been together for 5 years! He told me how much he loved her and that he fell out of love with me. She seems pretty and has a good range of interests so I can understand why.

After he broke up with me I became anxious and talked to other people. I feel guilty though. Some time passes and lately him and I have been talking. The relationship between him and the new girl was on the rocks, and we’ve been getting closer and have talked about getting back together. However, one day he ended up finding out about what I did during our break up and he’s really upset with me. I don’t know what to do

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Moist_Veterinarian69 t1_j2egbcd wrote

You are broken up, you are no longer obligated to make him feel good about anything and are free to do what you want

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carlorway t1_j2ehmpo wrote

He told you he loved another girl. Move on. He was willing to throw away 5 years with you for a quick lay.

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Consistent_Patient88 t1_j2eimk0 wrote

You’re not together. He literally finished things with you to pursue another girl. Why are you even giving him the time of day? You’re appearing like a doormat, and I am not saying this to hurt your feelings, but he’s kicking back thinking aw she’ll be right back with me if this goes tits to. Do not be that person. Value yourself and tell him to fuck off. You deserve better.

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runningaway67907 t1_j2encxu wrote

He's upset with you for flirting with other people after he broke up with you to persue another girl which is basically cheating. Please grow a spine an kick this man to the curb do you have any self respect for yourself you are letting this crappy awful cheating man control your life an your feelings, he is not worth it an you are worth so much more than this, he is just keeping you as a placeholder until the next girl comes along

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SnooHamsters513 OP t1_j2epntl wrote

all due respect I just assumed he wasn’t happy with me. though with how he came to his conclusion about his feelings for her I suspect some emotional cheating might have been at play here

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