You've been on 3 dates with the guy. You're not bf/gf. He was upfront about the fact that he has plans for NYE and, due to the party being hosted by others, he doesn't feel right inviting you. So no, it's not only not right for you to "expect" anything at the moment, to even think of trying to push a "but I'm seeing the guy and he wants to spend time with others" would be a total red flag for me.

If you end things, you're just putting yourself out there into the ocean of losers and creeps. Three weeks, no exclusivity agreement, I think you are being premature.

When he first mentioned NYE, you should've said "let's think of something fun to do that night!"

It’s weird you expect plans already for a major night such as NYE however it should be easy to Include you in plans - “hey good friend, can you ask your good friends if girl I’m seeing can come, she would like to join.” What’s the big deal?

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You both not official gf and bf … he’s being honest with you about his plans , I don’t think you’ll need to end things cuz it still to early .