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Puppycow t1_j2d7d6d wrote

>A part of the ceremony requires us to tie our wrists with white cotton for good luck, but in Chinese culture, white is a sign of bad luck as it symbolizes death. My mom told me that I’ve been growing up as a Chinese kid and I shouldn’t turn my back on it and this is bad luck. But since I’ve been raised for SEVENTEEN years without acknowledging my Laotian heritage, I feel it’s more of a reason to get in touch with it now.

You mother is being foolish and irrational. This is just a superstition and you should ignore it and tell her to stop being silly. You have two heritages, not just one. She is trying to drive a wedge between you and your father.

Does she never wear anything that is white? Seriously, this makes me angry just reading it.

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TheSpiciestKiwi OP t1_j2edbhl wrote

I know it’s just a superstition but I can’t help but feel like I’m going against my Chinese culture by doing this, but I know that I’m not just Chinese and I’ll have to find some kind of compromise within myself. I’ve tried to have her understand but I can’t see this getting to her. My dad isn’t perfect either but at least this will make him happy as my brother doesn’t want to go.

My mom and relatives rarely wear white tho, i can’t remember the last time they did, I remember everyone making a fuss when I wore a white headband with a white flower on my head a couple years ago. Thank you for your comment tho!

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