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StatedBarely t1_j2fj8ct wrote

Reply to comment by 5wan in [22m] [22f] My bf likes me better with makeup. I feel awful by ThrowRA3567767

Uhh I don’t think make up should change the way your SO treats you. I dress like a slob all the time but will get dolled up and look super good if I need to. My husband tells me I’m pretty daily no matter what I wear. He treats me the same whether I’m slobbing it in my PJs or dressed up to the nines. Granted when I dress up and get my make up done he’ll be like “wow the effort you put in is showing results!”. But even when I’m dressed down he’ll still call me his pretty girl, compliments my hair or something. His treatment of me never changes. He doesn’t stare at me more when I dress up or less when I don’t. If he did it would give me a complex and I would feel the need to dress up and put on make up all the time because I wouldn’t feel good enough in my own skin.

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throwaway77914 t1_j2fpobx wrote

Depends on your relationship dynamic and love language.

I don’t make unsolicited comments on my partner’s physical appearance ordinarily and would honestly be weirded out if he called me pretty everyday.

If we’re all done up for a special event or got a new haircut or something, then it makes sense to make a comment about how he looks handsome in that suit or how I’m beautiful with that shade of lipstick, new hairstyle, etc.

If consistent words of affirmation (including verbal compliments) is your love language then you should communicate that with your partner and they should put some effort to accommodate, or find a partner who also speaks that love language naturally.

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