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Consistent_Patient88 t1_j2e34h7 wrote

It’s been 8 years so I think it’s safe to say there’s something there and that’s the reason why he doesn’t want you both mixing with each other. If he’s not prepared to fix the situation, then end it. It’s so odd that 8 years down the line and he’s still trying to keep you separated from her. Red flags.

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ThrowRAChancez OP t1_j2e4n9w wrote

He makes me feel wrong for feeling that way. Understandble if it is the truth. He just invited me to hang out with them after the holidays but only because hes worried ill leave him, if he goes alone. He confessed during an argument that if something happened between them he wouldnt stop it, but that he would want me to be part of it if anything. I explained how uncomfortable that made me. He backed it up by saying I might want to think about it because they're "cool like that" and he isn't sure what I'd take as flirting. In the past he's mentioned wanting her to be our third, claiming he was just kidding afterward. I used to take him for his word but his actions scream the opposite.

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Consistent_Patient88 t1_j2e4zlq wrote

Aw come on. He’s literally said if she starts something he won’t stop in. Kick his ass out and find someone decent. You deserve better. Why are you allowing him to treat you like this?

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ThrowRAChancez OP t1_j2e8mxp wrote

You know the whole spiel: "I never said that, that's not what I meant, you're twisting my words, why are you jealous, I'm here with you, what about my happiness". I feel crazy saying this, but it feels like he's trying to break me down until i crack. Between work and my iron deficieny I was too tired to catch anything in time. I wanted to take him for his word, but sadly finding out you really can't do that, once someone shows themselves. I think I went autopilot for like 3 years because I can't remember 2015-2018.

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snarfblattinconcert t1_j2eb6n5 wrote

The Narcissist's Prayer by Dayna Craig:

That didn't happen. And if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault. And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did, you deserved it.

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pPC_bC t1_j2fiq52 wrote

You're 27, young but not young enough to waste more years in a relationship where you're the placeholder waiting to be dropped soon as the bff decides she wants your bf.

Do you want to wait 8 more years?

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