Momma, why are you trying so hard to make this work when he isn’t? Whatever work you put in will never be enough to cover his part of the deal. He obviously can strategize and put in the effort. You see it every time he acts and reacts in this totally unreasonable manner to defend his interests. Now add all those ‘convos’ up during your 8 yrs and tell me if he couldn’t have improved on so much if he’d just given a 1/16th of a fk about your feelings?!?