[23F] [30M] should I (23f) tell my partner (30m) of two years that smoke?

Submitted by grissycast t3_1006574 in relationship_advice

I [23F] used to vape and moved to cigarettes bc vapes were causing health issues, but I wasn’t ready to quit nicotine. I’ve been hiding smoking cigarettes to my partner [30M] for the past few months. He has disclosed to me how he doesn’t like people smoking cigarettes cause of the smell but he hits his w33d pen all the time around me. I’m tired of hiding it while he gets to freely do it on his own terms. Should I tell him I smoke cigarettes?

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advise-plz36 t1_j2frkg7 wrote

If you know he smokes weed openly then I don't think he has a right to be upset or respond negatively if you told him or if he sees you randomly smoking a cig

If he asks just say "I've always smoked, I try not to smoke around people as some people don't like the cig smoke"

If he responds negatively then it's his problem

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AlHazard33 t1_j2fro3h wrote

The smell will give it away anyway. And if you're concerned with health issues around vaping, wait until you smokes cigs a few years....

But yes, you can tell him. And he can decide if it's a dealbreaker to him.

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