Thank you for your response.

You are right. But I love him very much and feel I would miss him greatly if we weren’t together. He can be very sweet to me sometimes, it’s just this selfish way of communicating he has that really hurts me. He had a rough childish as he lost his mum very young, and then his Dad was useless. So I don’t think he ever really grew up or learned healthy communication skills. But, I have suggested couples counselling and he doesn’t want to try it. Apparently the reason is because he thinks “you and the counsellor will gang up against me”.

I have put so much into the relationship. We live together, have dogs together, and have years of routines etc that we got used to. I don’t know how I’d cope without him.