[33M][33F] having a power struggle in our marriage

Submitted by ThrowRA5177 t3_1001cs0 in relationship_advice

So yeah I’ll try to keep this short but my wife got a big promotion about a year ago and has been slowly but surely getting more confident in all aspects of her life. I’m so proud of her and we have been married for a decade. She’s lost weight and is just doing great in general.

I also work full time but have been doing way more at the house lately. We have no kids, but I do all the housework, yard, animals etc. I’m starting to feel like her maid sometimes. She also has made a few friends at work that are powerful women and I guess she has been somewhat embracing that? When she is in conversations with them it just doesn’t seem like the girl I know sometimes. She seems to like having power and it’s not all bad, but it’s tough when she subtlety rubs it in my face that she makes more money than I do.

Last night, I fucked the daylight out of her. She loved it and said she cummed so good and so many times and I finally kind of felt like I had my power back. Sadly, this feeling didn’t really last long. I was making us breakfast this morning and she walked by and was looking really good and I reached out and grabbed her ass and said good morning. I’ve done this hundreds of times and it was fine, but today she pretty much went off on me and told me it’s not okay just to grope her and pretty much told me I need to ask for permission or make sure she is ok with it before I touch her like that.

I apologized but I don’t feel like I’m in the wrong? I feel like this is all stemming from her work friends that talk about how they let their boyfriends treat them and she is applying those standards to our marriage. The norms have all changed and I just don’t know what she wants from me anymore. I pretty much do what she says she wants but it doesn’t always seem to be what she actually wants. I find myself more and more worried that she could do better and is going to leave me if I don’t do as she says. It’s just kind of a mess. Any advice appreciated.

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CardinalPuff-Skipper t1_j2ewa7x wrote

Clear your mind that “she could do better.” F- that. Money doesn’t make one better. You be you, if she’s ruling that out, perhaps you’re better off alone. Don’t allow her steal your mojo, brother.

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Correct-Sprinkles-21 t1_j2fn8dn wrote

Sounds like you need to sit down and have an open conversation with her instead of playing tug of war.

Maybe she's gone off the deep end. Maybe you're just having trouble adjusting to a relationship where you are not in power. You can't figure it out if you don't talk about it.

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Pale_Height_1251 t1_j2fj8g2 wrote

What did she say when you told her how you feel?

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