barukspinoza t1_j2ean28 wrote on December 31, 2022 at 4:59 PM

Men are not all sex crazed idiots like society makes them out to be. Men can be asexual and be afraid of intimacy. However, 5 years with no intimacy is odd if they do not claim to be asexual. If that is a requirement of your relationship with them (which is perfectly fine) you need to seriously discuss this before getting married. Something is up - even if it is just fear of intimacy. Go to science based therapy together if you want to continue the relationship. Best of luck!

ThrowRA_exit_delete OP t1_j2eb9wb wrote on December 31, 2022 at 5:03 PM

I have tried talking to him and he says he’s nervous on how it would feel. Granite he won’t let me try much with him so it’s hard for me to really show him what it’s going to feel like without us going forward with things.