Submitted by ThrowRA_exit_delete t3_zzyba8 in relationship_advice
We’re suppose to be getting married this April. I’ve tried to imitate things, and help with ways to help him feel more comfortable with himself and me. I’m his first “serious” partner, and he is not experienced at all with intimacy. Meanwhile I have had partners before in the past, but they led me on and used me. He keeps saying that he is scared, and nervous with how things would feel on his end. Is that typical for a guy to feel that way? Even after he’s been with me for as long as he has? He also says that he is not all about s** but that seems odd to me because usually men jump at the chance for it, right? Is there anything I can do to help him feel more comfortable with things? I would greatly appreciate some advice because I am absolutely stuck on what to do. Thank you.
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