[22F][21M][22M] How to let this guy down easily without him seeking revenge

Submitted by shmchtl t3_1000zqr in relationship_advice

I (22f) recently got out of a 2 year relationship because he cheated. I also just graduated recently and moved an hour down from my college town prior to that. Now there’s these two guys that my ex doesn’t really like (even hate) and both of them have made moves to fuh. They’re two really close best friends, and i believe neither of them have told the other about making moves on me. One guy [22M] who I’m really really interested in, was close to getting it with me a month ago but I drove up to his apartment in the college town (remember one hour) and he acted like he was asleep when I arrived, leading me to drive back down. So i stopped talking to him after that happened. I hung out with his best friend [21M] this last weekend and he was confessing his feelings, being too cheesy, and we made out but im really not interested. Guy one is the one i’m down for but im afraid his best friend will find out and somehow spread it to my ex (who im also in contact with). Im more in this situation because I depart for a program abroad and will be gone for 2 years. I leave in 2 weeks so im pulling a yolo. So I have chosen to go with guy one, but I don’t want him to be the one to tell his cheesy best friend because I believe that would lead him to be vindictive and maybe spread word to my ex. How do I let the best friend know without angering him. None of these guys have knowledge of the other as of now.

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VanMan32 t1_j2esss8 wrote

Maybe don’t pursue anything? Especially if you think your ex is going to want revenge?

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shmchtl OP t1_j2euwgv wrote

Ohoh its not my ex im worried about, its the [21M] guy that I don’t want to piss off

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UnneccessaryC t1_j2etgxw wrote

I read this because I hate that women fear revenge and wanted to support but I'm afraid I just see avoidable drama here. It's not going to go well for anyone any which way. You're gone in two weeks, why not focus on something else?

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shmchtl OP t1_j2ev3pw wrote

The issue is during my abroad thing ill be in a developing country for two yrs so I wont have the ability to fuuu so im tryina live it up rn hahah

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