Submitted by Educational_Ad2579 t3_zzy0ac in relationship_advice
I consider myself an introvert and im very selective with the people I expose/open up to. Met this caring, sweet and hard working lady that I've had the previlege to teach the ropes of the job and gave her some moral support when things were grim at work. At the beggining she seemed to be a bit scared of me and the way I carry myself at work. Since then some months have passed and we have become more complacent. She started pulling my hair every now and then and has been sending me some signals but I overthink everything and get scared of screwing this up. She has been leaving me every now and then some treats (chocolate, cake) on my lunchbag. As a way of thanking her I gave her a pocket mirror with a small note and a box of chocolates for christmas. Lets just say I wrote a borderline cornyish message about how sometimes I'm under the impression that she suffers a lot on her private life and that everytime she is feeling low she should look into that mirror as a reminder of the person staring back is the most important and valuable person in her life and by extent to the life of others.
I didnt mean to write such a big text but without context its hard to be clear.
She shows interest, she worries about such mundane things in my life, she's always complimenting and trying to fish some more things about my life and then again give those 'hints' like the hair pulling and such. What am I supposed to to with all this? By the way she is engaged but seems like her feoncé doesnt appreciate her that much and she sounds very unhappy with her life atm.
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