Submitted by RichQuackery t3_zzo5fn in relationship_advice
We had already been talking about kids and marriage (in the future tense) and know we want those things together. We have a very healthy and loving relationship but are torn on whether or not to have the baby. He’s concerned that we should have more time together before starting a family and I don’t disagree, but I don’t know if that’s a compelling enough reason to have an abortion.
Has anyone else experienced an early pregnancy in a relationship and/or do you have any advice?
HeatherReadsReddit t1_j2cqqtb wrote
I haven’t experienced it, so my advice would be to make the decision as if you’ll be a single mother or not, then talk to him about your decision.
Your relationship is new. If it doesn’t work out and you are then a single mother, would that be okay for your life?
If you have an abortion and the relationship ends, will you regret having it?
He may be amazing, and y’all might end up married with more kids down the line. Whether or not you start a family now, your opinions are the most important above anyone’s right now. Speak with a couples therapist if that could help. I wish you well.