_neontangles t1_j2eph5d wrote on December 31, 2022 at 6:37 PM

> As much as I love her I don't think I see myself in a relationship like this for the rest of my life. I want to bring it up but I'm not sure how to go about it without it sounding like I'm trying to force her into having sex with me, or appear like I'm threatening to leave if she doesn't.

Break up. I know that's cliché for Reddit, but break up.

You are fully within your right to be frustrated if you're not getting as much physical intimacy as you'd like in a relationship. But she's also absolute within her right to take things at her own pace because she's dealing with trauma.

You literally said you don't want to do this for the rest of your life, and you don't want it to sound like you're forcing her or threatening to leave.. but you kind of are telling her that you're going to leave if she doesn't fulfill your physical needs.

If you can't accept her for where she is right now, and you aren't having your needs met, then this isn't the right relationship for you.

ThrowRA-corn-fudge OP t1_j2ere01 wrote on December 31, 2022 at 6:51 PM

Well she suggested things will get better. That this was temporary which is why I started the relationship in the first place. She knows what my needs are and I've communicated that pretty clearly.I don't want to just break up without having a conversation about it. I don't really have a problem with waiting, it's the uncertainty that's bothering me the most. We're always kissing and hugging and cuddling so there isn't a lack of physical intimacy entirely. But you might have a point about incompatibility, I just won't know if that's the case until we talk about it.

_neontangles t1_j2f2q3x wrote on December 31, 2022 at 8:10 PM

Definitely talk about it for sure, and work through it if you can! Having that conversation is important for you both to be on the same page, whatever that looks like. If you can work through it, that's awesome. But also remember, that you can be two wonderful people individually, that love and respect each other, and ultimately aren't the best match. Hoping it works out for you!