Well, when thinking about breaking up, never take the other party into consideration. Obviously she will have to rent smaller, worse location etc etc. That's just life. She will figure it out.

2 things you need to think about:

1. If you're honest with yourself, do you want to break up or do you want to give it one more shot? Based on that question, you know what to do.

2. if it's the latter, think about what can possibly fix your feelings: did you fall out of love because of the cheating thing, or because you... just fell out of love as that can happen? Find the source of the issue, so you can work on it.

PS: honestly, I haven't been cheated on, so maybe I'm out of line here, but being bitter after 4 years, when she "only" kissed a guy and she confessed out of her own volition, that seems a bit extreme to me. Again, I can be wrong here and maybe cheating is cheating, no matter the 'gravity', but try to find inner peace with it, because how you are living emotionally right now, that's just not healthy.

I can read this without the "she kissed someone else" and see a break-up. You are no longer attracted to her in that way.

If you choose to break-up, don't mention cheating or anyone else. Just tell her you are not feeling for her the passion you once did, and you feel the relationship is tired. Would you rather be friends? Can you give her time to move out? The discussion doesn't need to end the living arrangement. You might stay roommates till the end of your current lease (or a month or two after the discussion).

The opposite of love is indifference. Breaking up is painful all around, but I think your girlfriend deserves the opportunity to be with someone who feels something for her rather than nothing at all.

If you care for her I don't think it's fair to keep her locked into a relationship with someone who is indifferent at best towards her. Especially not if she may want kids. And honestly our seems like you are doing worse and worse in this dynamic as well.

You could seek out therapy for yourself, either to sort out your feelings about her or generally working on your mental health. But if you realize the horse is dead it's no use to keep beating it

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No kids Cheater? It’s a no brainer. Should have dumped her a year ago. Get free and get to healing. You will never forget her betrayal.