At first I chose not to see all of the wrong that was served to me, but you are absolutely right that she betrayed the core value of a relationship that I desire, she knew all of my boundaries and where I cross the line and they were all crossed.

Im not confident that if ever those boundaries will be respected if I stay, her issues at work are priority and my issues are an inconvenience that always turn into an argument against me.

While the easiest thing to do would be to leave the job sadly even I agree this isn’t something that can be left easily. She just completed a bunch of college strictly for this profession and got a job that isn’t replaceable where we live so it’s the only option if she’s going to stay where family is or move far away to another location. So looks like that’s a part that will remain and that’s been the biggest downfall of working on anything ever in the future.

I realize all of this points downward really none of this looks good and really there aren’t any things that are good about this. We have no real commitments like a house or kids so I can call it quits any day without any strings attached which is great. I don’t want to waste my valuable time because I have a lot to be happy about but for some reason I stick around thinking there’s something better coming when all things tell me I’m not being valued how I want.

I appreciate the outlook on how it needs to be fixed and giving me a baseline of what I need to expect if I’m going to stick around for another day of this mess