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ThrowRAbeachwalk OP t1_j2fhe5c wrote

Reply to comment by peakpenguins in [22F] [22M] break up over snow walk? by ThrowRAbeachwalk

Should I bring it up again with him and ask? Or drop it and forget it

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peakpenguins t1_j2fhkae wrote

Up to you.. Personally at 7 months in, I'd want to have a conversation about it to find out whether he's willing to actually listen to and understand your feelings and to communicate his own. If he's not, I'd consider that a big red flag.

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ThrowRAbeachwalk OP t1_j2fi7oz wrote

Fair enough , thanks for the advice

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[deleted] t1_j2fjyzr wrote

Yea, it’s not necessarily about the walk itself. But how he’s going to handle you bringing up the situation. Does he seem to listen? Like really listen? Take account of your feelings and apologize and say to work on it or have a conversation to come to an understanding? If so then that’s good. If he’s dismissive and short, or tells you you’re “overreacting” or being “dramatic” HUGE red flag and dump his ass. Partners need to be able to bring up their feelings with one another, no matter the context. If he dismisses that then he’s not worth your time.

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Highest-Adjudicator t1_j2fhkc4 wrote

He clearly isn’t ready to talk about it yet so give him some time and then gently ask him to tell you what’s bothering him.

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