Submitted by the-friendly-squid t3_1004wse in relationship_advice
We are both 22 and live with our parents. I have a full time job, and he will be starting one later in January. We both want to save up some money before finding a place, but my boyfriend’s mom convinced him that he needs to save up an entire year’s worth of salary before renting. She wants each of us to save 30k before getting a place (i think that’s unrealistic and will take too much time, plus you can save while renting too.) This annoys me because I want to be an adult and be on our own and not have to stay with mommy and daddy. We’ve gone so long in our relationship with only being able to see eachother on weekends due to college schedules and such, and I just want to be able to live with him full time. It’s just another period where it will be the whole weekend thing. I don’t know what to do. I feel like he cares more about money than being able to move past the stupid childish “living with parents” stage of our relationship. I want to grow with him and finally start our lives, but it seems he is caring more about money than us. I feel like I need to give an ultimatum but I need advice on what I can say or do. I unfortunately don’t make enough to be able to afford a decent place on my own.
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