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BloomsLawsPoems t1_j2cyu2r wrote

I'm confused as to who is going to work to pay the bills for your babies?

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ThrowRABeautiful21 t1_j2cyxxg wrote

I'm on mat pay, he works Sat and Sun?

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BloomsLawsPoems t1_j2czjq0 wrote

He's in a situation where he can live how he likes and barely works and openly disrespects you. He's not a man of strong character by the sounds of it, so only a negative consequence will change his behavior if he ever changes. Clearly love for you and your children isn't enough to make him step up and be a present father and husband. You can impose a negative consequence by leaving for a few weeks until he changes his routine.

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CrazyCatLadyForEva t1_j2d6ahu wrote

Do not buy a house with him unless all these issues have been resolved. He’s not putting in the work as a father or a husband and seems to desperately need a wake up call.

He doesn’t seem to realize what he’s jeopardizing. Have you established an open device policy? Would he be okay with you looking at things like that or male escorts?

You and your kids deserve so so much better.

Sending you all the hugs!

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