Submitted by GardenGnome4551232 t3_zzaysy in relationship_advice
We dated for 5 months so really new.
We broke up because he cheated with a friend/coworker of his after a night out bar hopping while I was out of town. We didn’t have any major issues, and were pretty happy together.
He told me the first night I got back. He was really sorry, said it would never happen again, and that it was a bad decision made while drunk. We broke up.
Fast forward 6 months. We’ve spent the last month talking about getting back together and how to rebuild trust that got broken so quickly in a relatively new relationship. He is swearing up and down that he will never do anything like that again, he knows how much he hurt me, and he wants to put in the work to heal and rebuild our relationship. From what I can tell, I don’t think he’s been dishonest about anything he’s said, but how do I really know that?
Prior to him cheating, I saw long-term potential with him. I’ve talked to some friends and my sibling about this - all are saying not to take him back. But I want to. Am I just setting myself up to be hurt again?
Tl,dr: Boyfriend cheated and we broke up. Now he wants another chance. Should I give it to him?
Edit: He is not friends with the coworker anymore. They do see each other at work from time to time, and he said he’s polite but not friendly and doesn’t interact with her unless he needs to.
pretty_lady11 t1_j2aihpn wrote
You are definitely setting yourself up to be hurt. You are both old enough to know right from wrong and if you can't trust someone, it is very hard to have a truly productive and healthy relationship. Find someone who wouldn't even consider cheating an option let alone do it.