Mobile_Prune_3207 t1_j2ewdmv wrote on December 31, 2022 at 7:25 PM

Have you actually spoken over the phone/ Facetimed him?

Do you have any proof that he even bought tickets and the accommodation?

Did you see on his social media that his mom really died?

This could the truth, that his mom died. This has not been a great year and it seems a ton of people are dying this month alone. But at the same time, this all seems very cat-fishy.

AdmirableFoxx OP t1_j2ey3at wrote on December 31, 2022 at 7:37 PM

He used to speak over FT every day. He booked the accommodation on my Airbnb account and yes, I saw the social media, his mother really died. I don't think I was being catfished, he is a real person, really works in the Army, I've spoken with his friends over FT before and when his mother died, me and one of his closest friends called me and we've spoken for over an hour.

Mobile_Prune_3207 t1_j2fef8r wrote on December 31, 2022 at 9:36 PM

OK then I think that seeing that everything is legit, you need to cut him some slack. It's not a random aunt that died, it's his mom. And around the holiday period too. His whole life has been turned upside down, he's grieving, he's vulnerable.

Go see your buddy and then see if he reaches out. Maybe just shoot him a message to say you're sorry and that you're still around for him and leave it at that.