Now_Villager t1_j2eqs5n wrote on December 31, 2022 at 6:46 PM

Well, you sound like you've made up your mind to do it, so not sure if you're open to other views, but I think you should be very cautious as this seems likely to make your wife's trauma worse. Even with her permission (which maybe she feels she has to give to keep you happy) it's still a betrayal of your marriage vows.

SatoriSeven OP t1_j2erzdl wrote on December 31, 2022 at 6:55 PM

I appreciate you’re honesty. I am not fully one way or another yet. It’s more coming from a place where multiple people have told me it’s a no brainer(mainly guys) but my main goal here is to have a prosperous family. If doing this doesn’t lead me there then it’s a no. My vows are also another important thing that I’ve considered but as for her doing this from a place of insecurity, I don’t think so because her personality type which is usually well thought out and free minded in many ways.