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Hazardous_Youth t1_j2fj1od wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in (26M)(25F) I just found out after 4 years that my girlfriends family is homophobic. I have a gay sister. What now? by [deleted]

So far this is the initial step. Don’t have a feeling of closure about this though and it’s weighing on me.

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[deleted] OP t1_j2fjf2k wrote

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Hazardous_Youth t1_j2fjq8a wrote

Uh, because in their hearts they don’t respect or value my sister, as a human being… This is upsetting… and would be more than upsetting to my sister if she found out.

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hideme21 t1_j2folgr wrote

There’s a lot of people out there that are bigots. You can’t change those people. And sometimes you can’t always avoid them. Your job is to protect your sister if you can. You can warn your sister. You can eve ask for her advice. But as long as you don’t purposely subject her to these people, then all should be fine. Big events will be your issue. Like you potential wedding. But choosing your sister over them seems like a simple pick for you.

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Hazardous_Youth t1_j2frh29 wrote

Your comment has been the most helpful, thank you

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hideme21 t1_j2fv0ti wrote

Everyone here is trying to get you to realize the same thing. That you don’t have control here. And that’s ok. But I am glad that I was able to say it in a way to get you to understand.

As long as your gf isn’t a bigot then all is well. She might be able to get some advice from your sister regarding this situation as well. Since she is the one how is most affected here.

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[deleted] OP t1_j2fk0a6 wrote

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Hazardous_Youth t1_j2fkp0v wrote

You don’t seem to understand how this could be upsetting, so we don’t need to continue. Thanks for your suggestion.

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