[23M] [21F] Is my mind my own enemy??

Submitted by Plane_Conversation89 t3_1004vqo in relationship_advice

So I got cheated on a while back at 21 and now I'm a 23 year old male used two year to just focus on me and finishing barber school. So I feel like I'm ready but every girl I talk to i feel like they are gonna be cheaters and don't text them back but now I have this really cute girl texting me and she wants to call and do all this and we are supposed to meet tomorrow but I feel like not texting her back as well cause I'm not wanting to feel that pain I felt long ago! She has told me that she ain't texting anyone else but she told me she has guy friends and that she slept with one a long while back and I'm truly getting vibes like this from the other girls! Should I still keep trying since its just the talking stage of things or should I just keep going on the search?

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lynxtosg03 t1_j2fito3 wrote

Try not to let insecurities get in the way of your relationships. Trust that they're being faithful until they show you otherwise. Stick with it.

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Plane_Conversation89 OP t1_j2fjns2 wrote

I see, I think I'm just afraid of wasting time on someone that could be cheating the whole time. I'll definitely try and just calm down about it though and see where it takes me! Thanks for the advice!

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vik_thewomaninblack t1_j2fpqae wrote

If you continue assuming every girl will cheat on you, you will never give anyone a chance and become bitter. Work on your feelings and insecurities first so you have a chance at a healthy relationship in the future

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