[34f][38m] I had an affair with a married man and he is acting like nothing happened

Submitted by Awkward-Secret4694 t3_1004y4l in relationship_advice

I had two year affair with a married man. The first year was great. He was exciting, thoughtful and kind and the sex was mindblowing. He has a wife and kids which I was completely aware of but I didnt care. I fell in love with him.

A year in, and my married partner started to develop a conscience. He told me he wanted to go back to his wife and family. I did not want to lose him, so did the unthinkable. I took pictures of us having an intimate moment and threatened to expose him if he left me. I also told him that he had to give me a weekly allowance. He has a great job after all. This kept him with me for another year.

All of a sudden. He stopped calling me, changed his number and went off social media. I went to his home and told his wife but she already knew about me and asked me to leave. Then I told his sister about us, she also knew and asked me to never contact her. I told mutuals and the same occured. He basically confessed about the affair to everyone both mine and his friends and returned to his wife.

6 months later, i havent spoken to him or seen him. Though I went of he and his wifes socials and they post family pics like nothing happened and their friends actually like the picture. Its mind boggling and heartbreaking. Its almost like i never happened and wasted two years of my life.

0

Comments

You must log in or register to comment.

rogue-star-dust t1_j2fj22f wrote

Wtf is wrong with you. You are bay shit crazy.

29

wuh613 t1_j2fl5te wrote

This wreaks of trolling. If true you’re a terrible person who deserves everything that happened. You blackmailed him. You’re a criminal.

10

Awkward-Secret4694 OP t1_j2fmddc wrote

Im the terrible person? The unmarried one! The one who was basically used for a good time behind his wife and kids back.

−8

Hal_Jordan55 t1_j2fn7tt wrote

Don't pretend to be a victim. You were a willing participant, not sure how you expected this to end.

12

Awkward-Secret4694 OP t1_j2fodmz wrote

I am a victim. I dont get how i am not. He was the one that was married not me. Yes, I shouldnt have "blackmailed" him, but I didnt want to let him go. He was my everything. He told everyone about the affair, so I have no way of getting back with him or have no leverage and nows acting like i never existed. Its harsh.

−9

Hal_Jordan55 t1_j2fouu7 wrote

In what way were you a victim? You willingly slept with someone, and he dumped you. It happens to plenty of people, most of them don't play victim.

8

Helene-S t1_j2fsaab wrote

Assuming this is true and not just you trolling, you’re not the victim. His wife and kids are. You blackmailed him, which is a criminal act. You then tried to ruin his life more after he decided to be truthful to his family. Leave him and his family alone. You fucked around and found out.

4

AppointmentClassic82 t1_j2fmv7v wrote

If this isn’t a troll post, then I’m not sure what you’re looking for. You f’d around and found out. Tons of couples get past infidelity. It takes work, but it’s not impossible. You have zero grounds to be upset or bitter about that when you knowingly were the other woman from the start.

3

NDaveT t1_j2fwjfr wrote

> Its almost like i never happened and wasted two years of my life.

Yeah that's how it goes when you date married people.

2

AutoModerator t1_j2fiv17 wrote

Welcome to /r/relationship_advice. Please make sure you read our rules here. We'd like to take this time to remind users that:

  • We do not allow any type of am I the asshole? or situations/content involving minors

  • Any sort of namecalling, insults,etc will result in the comment being removed and the user being banned. (Including but not limited to: slut, bitch, whore, for the streets, etc. It does not matter to whom you are referring.)

  • ALL advice given must be good, ethical advice. Joke advice or advice that is conspiratorial or just plain terrible will be removed, and users my be subject to a ban.

  • No referencing hateful subreddits and/or their rhetoric. Examples include, but is not limited to: red/blue/black/purplepill, PUA, FDS, MGTOW, etc. This includes, but is not limited to, referring to people as alpha/beta, calling yourself or users "friend-zoned", referring to people as Chads, Tyrones, or Staceys, pick-me's, or pornsick. Any infractions of this rule will result in a ban. This is not an all-inclusive list.

  • All bans in this subreddit are permanent. You don't get a free pass.

  • What we cannot give advice on: rants, unsolicited advice, medical conditions/advice, mental illness, letters to an ex, "body counts" or number of sexual partners, legal problems, financial problems, situations involving minors, and/or abuse (violence, sexual, emotional etc). All of these will be removed and locked. This is not an all-inclusive list.

If you have any questions, please send us a modmail.

#This is an automatic comment that appears on all posts. This comment does not necessarily mean your post violates any rules.

I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.

1