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Brave_Bother5162 t1_j6kou90 wrote

Reply to comment by McSuzy in Me (27F) and my boyfriend (31M) - I need help understanding what just happened by [deleted]

it's definitely a lot of pointless conversations! I try super hard to grab the logic out of them to ensure that there's a point! There's a point that he sees but I seriously don't see it, and try super hard to validate his points so that he feels heard/seen. I take so much time to show him that I care about what's important to him, and it's just a lot of work to investigate them all while managing my pain while he's talking to me about me in a negative way.

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McSuzy t1_j6kp1v3 wrote

I just want to point out that you are not closer to actually articulating what is going on and what the problem is. I point it out because I want to know if this is part and parcel of your communication style or if this is just a desperate attempt not to honestly state what is happening.

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Brave_Bother5162 t1_j6kq9c4 wrote

you're 100% right. i'm still traumatized so it's most likely affecting how im communicating all of this.

I don't know what is my communication style. This may be it. If it is, may I please receive your advice on this situation.

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McSuzy t1_j6kr4k6 wrote

Well I can parse out the fact that you're indulging a very damaged man who should not be in a relationship with anyone. Stop doing that. He is not worthy of your time and attention.

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