Submitted by [deleted] t3_10q18ol in relationship_advice
lrlandesa t1_j6na4p5 wrote
I’m surprised at the amount of criticism OP is getting. She’s right that 10% is too low and if you can’t afford to tip at least 15% then you probably shouldn’t go out to eat. Unfortunately servers rely on tips and a very low tip gives the impression that the service was poor.
That said I think OP should be clear ahead of time that she will not eat somewhere unless a fair tip will be given. They could even say that whoever pays for the food the other person tips so no one is left to cover it all. Also I don’t think being 19 is an excuse to not tip a fair amount but that’s just me.
McSuzy t1_j6neehr wrote
I think there are a bunch of kids posting in this thread to screw around.
HauntedPickleJar t1_j6nhh39 wrote
And they’re oh so shocked at America’s tipping culture. It is what it is, get with the program or don’t go out to eat.
McSuzy t1_j6nk5us wrote
It's shocking! It's crazy! Blah blah blah.
It's how it works and it's just not that hard.
HauntedPickleJar t1_j6nn5ke wrote
It’s really not. And I hate the excuse that they can’t afford it because if you can’t afford to tip, you can’t afford to eat out. I grew up poor and have had many times in my life where I couldn’t afford shit, but I knew if I could some how budget to go out to eat then I had to include tipping in said budget.
tofujones t1_j6nj1lu wrote
Yeah, 10% is really low. I usually judge people based on how they treat the service industry. Tipping is no skin off my back because I can afford it, especially with my baseline of 20%. It's rare that I get treated poorly by staff. I've definitely lost my patience before, but even then 20% is 20%. They might really need it and is having a bad day. The service industry and any job having to deal with customers all day is ruthless.
[deleted] OP t1_j6nc9ew wrote
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kvetcherkit t1_j6ndevq wrote
And the fact she even offered to cover the tip herself and told him the day before they didn't need to go to an expensive place! But his fragile masculinity was more important to him that he didn't tell her he tipped so low until after she couldn't even do anything about it. I don't even order food if I can't tip the driver. Is tipping culture stupid as hell in the US? Yeah, it is. But it is what it is and I'm not gonna short change someone working hard like that.
[deleted] OP t1_j6ndsrc wrote
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