“Honey, I’ve tried everything I know how to do to fix this situation and improve the communication between us. I’m willing to try other things, but you’re not even willing to pay attention to me much of the time, let alone make the effort to repair this relationship. I love you, but if you want to stay married to me, we are going to start seeing a couples counselor twice a month. Let me know by the end of the week what you decide, and whether you’d like to make the appointment yourself or if you’d like me to do it. I’m not going to ask you about this again, so if I don’t hear back from you by Friday, I’m assuming you want a divorce and I’ll make plans to move out.”

You should also contact a divorce lawyer NOW to find out what your options are. It doesn’t mean you have to get a divorce, but you would be foolish not to at least know your options and be prepared if it comes to that.