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Stellaaahhhh t1_j6n2380 wrote

>I am so exhausted, and my therapist has suggested we take a break if he continues to refuse to be present and work on our marriage.

Is that feasible? Like do either of you have either the funds to pay for another housing situation or have someone you could stay with? Because honestly it's good advice. It sounds like he's isolating himself while enjoying the advantages of you being there to take care of things. If he wants to be isolated, let him see what that's actually like.

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Panic_Pixie OP t1_j6n43rz wrote

The reason I've been reluctant to take that jump is it's really not feasible. He makes about half what I do, and can't afford the rent on the apartment without me. And I really can't split my pay between a hotel and the apartment. Neither of us have family in the area, so that's not really an option, either.

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Stellaaahhhh t1_j6n4q9i wrote

Ugh. In that case, maybe figure out an informal break. Clean your own space, fix your own food, do your own thing. And leave him to do the same. I'm not saying don't even talk, but try to step back. Let him know what you're doing though.

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Panic_Pixie OP t1_j6n5a1p wrote

I will try, but we are in a one bedroom apartment, and there's really not much space. Thank you for the advice.

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hideousfox t1_j6o4st8 wrote

That's perfect then. He believes you won't leave. Prove him wrong so he wakes up and realises he needs you.

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