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keltik7 t1_j6na2xw wrote

Sounds like he’s not interested in being with you but doesn’t want to be the one to break it off. This taking a break, if you can’t physically leave the home, maybe just cease to engage with him and act like he’s not there, do your own thing. If he carries on regardless, it’s time to let it go, if he realises you’re taking a break and makes an effort, good. But it just sounds like he’s trying to waste your time.

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Tower-Junkie t1_j6of5t5 wrote

Often times it’s not that the person doesn’t want to be with you, they just want to reap the benefits of being with you without putting in the work to make you happy as well. I’m sure he’s just fine with getting his needs met and being cared about. He just doesn’t care enough to give back. People have mental and emotional issues that cause problems with communication, but that’s what therapy and classes are for. He refuses to do those.

Just a PSA for anyone in a situation where you’re asking something of your partner and they put you off or outright refuse: If they wanted to, they would.

If they wanted to take you out more, they would. If finances are the issue they’d find a way to do a cheap/free date here and there.

If they wanted to be more open and honest, they would. They’d get the therapy. They’d take the classes.

If they wanted to fix the issues, they’d do whatever they could to try and fix it.

If you’ve had repeated conversations with someone and they’re aware of the thing and they still won’t do the thing, they just don’t want to.

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