I(24MTF) and my friends have this nagging feeling that my "potential" BF(30M) isn't who he says he is

Submitted by LtWhiskeyFox t3_10pvwd9 in relationship_advice

Let me preface this with that I am young and naiive and I haven't made the best choices. I just need an outside opinion on if I'm just crazy or not.

Adding some context here, so I get a friend request from this person a few weeks ago. He sent me a few messages just generally talking about stuff. Normally I don't add random people I don't know to my Facebook or respond to DMs there, but I kept chatting with him anyways because he was fun to talk to.

A little bit about him. He says he's currently deployed in the Marines to Iraq and is an E-7.

He asks me out, and I say yes to him, that we can see where it goes. Cue me talking to a couple of friends about the guy and they are suspicious of him. He originally said he can't send video of himself because it was against the rules, but after a lot of talking to him and finding out that his photos were posted on a news site about his photos being targeted by scammers to trick people into pay exorbitant amounts of money, he did prove he was the real person.

He has asked for money on the account of having no money for food. Not much, but around 50$. Now I'm not sure how deployed stuff works, so I don't know if it's real or not and he has claimed that a photo was originally his (a photo of a Military ID) was a "sample" , except it was edited heavily it looks like and the original was obscured. My question is why say it's yours and not say it's a sample before hand? And like what's even the point of that?

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Ambitious-Cover-1130 t1_j6mgsp8 wrote

This is a scam!! Never send any money to people when you are just meeting up - especially when you do not se them in real life!!!!

Called Nigeria scam.- take a look at James Veitch you tube clips - on how to deal with guys like this - they are hilarious!

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cannot-be-named t1_j6mf3py wrote

This sounds like a love scam. Please don't send "him" anymore money.

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silverencat t1_j6n3wyj wrote

They usually target lonely pensioners because youngsters are more educated on scams thanks to the internet.

Frankly, if you send any money, I can only offer a sympathetic facepalm for ya.

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FiFi2789 t1_j6noev0 wrote

Scam scam scam.

This is a classic scam and you should not be falling for it at ALL.

BLOCK him and move on. Lesson learned to the tune of 50 dollars.

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runningaway67907 t1_j6nyqc4 wrote

No man should ever ask you for money especially if he's in the military, please don't send this fake man money have you never watched the Tinder Swindler on netflix

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ONOeric t1_j6midk0 wrote

And how did he prove he was real?

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LtWhiskeyFox OP t1_j6mk5xv wrote

He put himself on video. I'm sorry if it comes off as stupid. I just don't want to be conned

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gordonf23 t1_j6mm9zr wrote

If he’s asking for money, you’re being conned. This is a scam. Period.

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ONOeric t1_j6mmcuu wrote

Was it live or recorded and sent

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