Demons_EnthusimQueen t1_j6okb9g wrote on January 31, 2023 at 8:10 PM

>He was unfaithful at the start, he refuses to act mature, and he refuses to take initiative about our relationship's future and get a better job. All he does is be passive and play video games all day. Is this all a symptom of autism, am I expecting something that he can't possibly do?

Autism is different in everyone. Everyone who is autistic has similar symptoms but not all of them. I'm Autistic, and I have poor communication skills but I understand right from wrong.

His actions are speaking louder than his words. He cheated, you're a second option, won't take initiative, won't look for a better job which can be a symptom of autism because it requires change but with the right support and whatnot, it can be done.

I honestly think he's looking for someone to replace his sister. From your post, it sounds like he doesn't even do chores or helps his sister out.

You are asking for the bare minimum in a relationship, in which he refuses to provide or comes up with excuses. Think really hard about this relationship, because I think you'll become a replacement.

DigPsychological7128 OP t1_j6ooei3 wrote on January 31, 2023 at 8:36 PM

Thank you. I also told him that his actions tell me what he thinks about our relationship. I am aware that I was pushing him maybe too much, to get a job and try to move out, but if he wants a life with me like he says he does, he should do it. My family who has less money then his is ready to help us financialy and get a loan for the visa, and I just feel embarrassed how inmature he is acting about that.